Monday, November 2, 2009

Blessing versus Cursing

I was reading in my "Mothers of Preschoolers" devotional this morning and was challenged, so I'm going to share it with you.  It's a simple devotional, but oh, I have so much work to do in this area!  I don't use the particular sayings listed below, but I do know that there are many times that I get frustrated and speak about or to Katie in anger, not love and patience.  I find myself wishing that "this stage will pass", but you know...that isn't what I really want.  My little girl is growing up too fast as it is.  I instead need to be diligent in praying that out of my mouth comes blessings to my children, that my patience and wisdom grow daily, and that God directs my path continually as I try to direct my children to Him.

"From the same mouth come both blessing and cursing."  James 3:10

'How many times do I have to tell you?'
'Children are to be seen and not heard.'
'Oh, Johnny is a good boy...when he is sleeping.'
'Sit down!'
'Don't chew with your mouth open.'
'Sit like a lady.'

These sayings will pierce the hearts of young children  when they continually hear belittling comments or corrections stemming from anger and frustration.  We have heard it takes ten positive comments to refute one negative comment.

God gives us one mouth that we can use to speak blessings or curses over our children.  None of us would admit that we intentionally speak curses over our children, but every time we belittle, demean, or speak words of correction out of anger and not love, we are cursing them.

Instead, we can look to w hat the Lord says to us and about us.  For example, we are His children, loved and chosen for the purpose of glorifying Him in all we say and do.  We are coheirs with Christ, saved, and blessed.  We can correct our children with patience, love, kindness, and God's truth.  We can remind our children--and ourselves--of these truths with words of blessing versus cursing.

Lord, please guard my mouth to speak words of blessing
to my children.  Help me to hear Your words of blessing
and then speak those blessings to my children.