Sticks and stones
May break my bones,
Words will never hurt me.
I have no idea who came up with that catchy and well-taught saying, but they were WRONG! Dead wrong... This past week, I had to see the effects of words on Katie. She was called "stupid" by a friend at school. And that one word, as simple as it is, hurt her deeply. As I'm sure any mother would, I wanted to take it back...I wanted to take away her hurt. But I also wanted to use the opportunity to share with her how to let her light shine through times like these, so here are a few things we talked about:
1). It's human nature to put up your guard after you have been hurt, and even to desire to hurt that person back...but following our sinful human nature isn't what Christ calls us to do. He commands us to do unto others as we want them to do unto us (not as they have done unto us).
2). It is against our nature, but, as Christians, we are called to forgive (70 times 7!) when we are wronged. Forgiving doesn't mean you are accepting what they did as right, but it does mean that you are choosing to let it go and not dwell on the past hurt.
3). We may not feel that they deserve to be forgiven, but we must remind ourselves that we didn't deserve Christs forgiveness either, yet He loved us enough to die for us anyway. We, too, must show God's love, and times like these helps that love shine brightest.
4). Though, as a mom, I would love to keep all hurts away from you (or any of my children), it isn't possible. I will always be here to protect you in all the ways that I can, but life isn't always fair or nice. But even when it hurts, I am here for you, to listen, to laugh or cry with you, to hold you, and to help you get back up and going. But, always remember that Jesus is the true healer.
I know this is just a small start to the hurts of life that are inevitable....so, how do you handle your child's hurts? I'd love to hear from you about your thoughts, suggestions, experiences!