Sunday, May 7, 2017

The Mom Balancing Act: How do YOU do it?

Am I the only one that struggles daily with balance in life?  I'm pretty sure this started with kids...Katie, to be exact...almost 11 years ago now.  How do I keep the house clean, but still make meals for the family?  How do I "cherish" my time home with her, but still manage the laundry/homeschooling/cooking, etc.?  Pretty sure I've tried every book out there...every planner...every "routine" (for cooking, for cleaning, for sleeping...for, well, you name it!)  And, when I've asked those veteran moms that I look up to, I'm pretty sure the answer has always been something to the effect of "remember what's most important now...it's a season...we've all been there, but it'll get better..."


Now, I have almost 11 years under my belt (that's crazy, scary, and even a little depressing!)...three kids instead of one...and, somehow, here I am asking myself basically those same questions!  Why can't I keep my house organized & clean from being the health department's worst nightmare?!  How can I enjoy my much too quickly fleeting time with my kids, when I also need to keep all of the clothes washed, groceries bought (and prepared), school work/activities taken care of, etc.?  And how in this world do moms find the time or energy to spend time doing something for themselves??  Sadly, I feel so overwhelmed many days that I would rather just go to sleep and pretend to ignore the ever growing to-do list than to attempt it.  It's literally the 1 step forward 10 steps back feeling.

Now, don't get me wrong...I've figured out how to survive over the years...and some days are way better than others.  I've learned to let a lot (if not all) of my perfectionism go out the window...my expectations are for sure lower than they were when I first became a mom...I've learned that it's okay to do the simple short-cuts (sometimes sandwiches or cereal nights are ok!)...I've learned that if I rotate well enough (one day to focus on groceries....one day to tackle all of the laundry...one day to quickly "hit" all of the house with a basic cleaning...one day to just be out, playing with the kids), then I can at least keep up appearances of having it together.  And that's with the consistent help/understanding of my husband!  (I cannot imagine how single moms feel...) But inside, it still feels as if I am juggling a thousand balls and waiting for not one, but all of them, to come crashing down all around me.  No matter the small "survivor" victories I obtain, I find myself still longing for the balance that I just can't seem to completely find.

So, I'm asking again...what am I missing?!  How do you "veteran moms" do it?  And how to you do it an maintain the joy of being a keeper of the home while trying to balance all of the "balls" life so often throws your way?